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A little problem I like to call… June 10, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — lesbonurse @ 2:07 am

“Incongruent desire.”  It’s a phrase I made up for my documentation to describe the situation when one person in a couple wants to have sex more than the other person.  For example, I recently saw a woman with a complaint of vaginal dryness and decreased libido.  At the initial appointment, we talked about her physical symptoms and I inquired into the state of her relationship and her general mood.  She assured me that her mood was good, her partner was a nice guy, and that she was happy with his sexual technique.  We checked a few labs, talked about using lube and made an appointment to discuss the results.  The lab results were normal.  I delved a little deeper into her sex life.  It turns out that my patient is a nighttime sex person who says that she would be happy to have sex 2 times a week.  Her partner is a morning person.  Like, an early morning person.  Early as in 5 a.m. every day before he goes to work.  Every. Day. At. 5 a.m.  My patient didn’t find this as bothersome as I would.  She just felt bad that she wasn’t wet and ready every day at 5 a.m. when her partner was horny.  I gave her the speech about how there are different types of normal for people, and that her level of sexual desire sounded perfectly healthy to me.  I encouraged her to talk to her partner about ways that they can compromise on the timing of sexual activity.  I informed her that contrary to her hopes, there is not a pill that can turn her into a horny morning person.  What I didn’t say was that my partner would be getting nothing but an angry elbow in the ribs if I was being woken up at 5 a.m. for some lovin’.


3 Responses to “A little problem I like to call…”

  1. LOL, I think it would really depend on *how* I was woken up at 5am for that lovin’ 😛

  2. the injector Says:

    ha. your stories and insights always make me laugh and think. thanks for sharing. and, once in a while a 3-5am wake up call is absolutely glorious as long as there is sleep guaranteed after the climaxes:)

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